Hi! I’m Stephanie, and I’m so glad you’re here!
If you came here because you saw the title of my blog and said to yourself, “Let me go see who this is trying to tell women how to be PERFECT!” then I apologize. You’ve caught me in my first act of imperfection: Deceit.
Obviously, this is not a blog created with the goal of teaching women how to be perfect. There’s only One perfect person who’s ever walked this earth, and that’s Jesus. Whoever invented gummy candies is a close second, but I digress. Let me get to the point.
Around 2011, about 6 years into the pursuit of my acting career, I started feeling as if something was missing from my life, so I turned to the only place I knew I could find answers. The only place Tyler Perry encourages us to look for ALL the solutions: God. And let me be specific; I’m talking about the God of the Bible, a.k.a, Jesus’ Daddy. You get my point.
After making the decision to put my career on pause and find these answers, I realized that most of us are taught to do life all wrong. We’re taught our main objectives in life are: getting a good education so that we can have good careers, be successful, possibly leave a legacy, etc. And while there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting these things, we go wrong when these things become our gods. We eat, sleep, and breathe achieving our goals, and oh, along the way, we ask God to bless the plans we’ve created, without even stopping to ask what His plans for us are.
Before you know it, we’ve bought into the lie that this is what life is all about. For some people, the failure to accomplish these things when or how we think we should leads to a sense of failure, which can also lead to depression, anxiety, and feeling as if we lack purpose. Then there’s the other end of the spectrum. Some people do accomplish these things. They reach what they consider “the top,” only to discover that what makes them whole isn’t up there.
Which brings me to why I started this blog. Even though we say, “Nobody’s perfect” or, “I’m not perfect,” the reality is, the world has created a false standard of perfection that we try to live up to everyday, whether we realize it or not. However, God never intended for us to be any of these things. True perfection in the eyes of God is a heart like like Jesus, and the journey to obtaining that is anything but perfect.
In Matthew 5:48, Jesus says, “Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” The word “perfect” is derived from the Greek word, teleios – meaning, “having reached its end, complete.” It also means, “complete” in various applications of labor, growth, mental, and moral character, etc.
Now, I don’t know about y’all, but according to the biblical definition of perfection, I’ve got a loooooong way to go! As a matter of fact, full completion/perfection isn’t even attainable on this side of life because we still live in a fallen world. I’m reminded of this everytime somebody runs into my heel with a shopping cart. But unlike the world, God will never cancel us because we fail to get it right. All He wants is for us to recognize that His ways are perfect, and to partner with him to put those ways into practice.
This blog is an example of how I try to do that everyday. It’s an example of how I try to unlearn the false narrative of perfection put on me by the world, in order to adopt the truth of perfecting my heart to be more like Jesus and less of a human, hot mess.
Notice I said try. Some days I get it right. Some days I don’t. But I know that if I just continue to allow God to pluck up those weeds that have grown in the cracks of my heart for people who drive 20 miles per hour in the passing lane, then slowly but surely, I’ll get better. I hope that by reading this, you’ll learn, laugh, and grow toward doing the same.